Sunday, May 21, 2006

Still The Second Mouse?

I have been thinking lately about the many changes that I have been through this past year as well as pondering how my life will be changing over the next year. It is all a bit surprising and unreal to me right now. With this in mind, I have decided to bring back one of my very first (2/05) posts...

The Second Mouse Gets The Cheese

For most of my life I have been a person that is hesitant to stick my neck out and be first at almost anything. I am usually very cautious. I have always viewed this as a flaw in my personality. Recently, however, I have come to view this "flaw" as a bit of a blessing.

I remember that growing up I watched what my older sister did to get in trouble, and I made sure that I never made the same mistake. She did not date that much in high school (actually, I didn't either), but it always seemed that when she did there was a problem. I watched her get in trouble and grounded for coming in late from a date. I watched her get in really BIG trouble for getting caught necking with her date in his car in front of our house. So, I made sure that I never came home late from a date or participated in necking with my dates in front of our house. I probably did far more forbidden things than she ever did at that age. I just made sure that I didn't make that same mistakes. I was always home on time. Anything that I didn't want my parents to know about I made sure they couldn't find out. I didn't get caught. I'm sure that they had some suspicions about what I was doing... after all they had to go through the teenage years as well... but there was never a confrontation about my behavior. My older sister got the trap. I watched her get caught and then I got the cheese.

Think about it. If I can learn from others mistakes, doesn't that make my life easier? It is a lot easier to build something if you have watched someone else do it first. Maybe they mess up and it falls apart. Then I stand a better chance of getting it right if I can figure out where they went wrong. There is still plenty of room for serendipitous discoveries.

It is always fun to taste a different type of cheese, but it is nice to know that someone else has tried it and liked it first. Then, I can make sure that it does not have too much of a bite. Growing up, I was the second of two girls in my family. My older sister always got to try the cheese before me. That was probably a good thing for me. My life has always been calmer. It shows how placement in the family has an impact on personality development. It shows why being the second mouse suits me. It is familiar. It is comfortable.

Now, once in awhile, more and more often as I get older, I do stick my neck out... verrryyy carefully... and taste some new cheeses on my own. I think that is because I now have a better idea of what mouse traps look like and how to avoid them. I trust my own judgment and have faith that God has better things in mind for me than my neck in a nasty mouse trap. So, sometimes, I buy the wrong stupid grout cleaner. It is not the end of the world. My grout still got clean!

Sometimes I am the first mouse and I still get the cheese! :o)

So I am wondering... am I still the second mouse or have I ventured totally into first mouse territory?


Tropical Screamer said...

I like to think of myself as the "experienced" mouse.

I'm able to look at the sitation and decide if I want to take the cheese first or leave it for someone else. If it's really, really good cheese that I want I'll figure out a way to get it without getting my head chopped off.

I make my own rules and decide my own schedule. And I try to keep the younger ones from sticking their heads in the trap when I can.

That said, I can still decide to be a little silly and snatch at cheese when I want to feel young again.

Ah, wisdom.



Jim said...

That sure was worth saving. Thanks a lot!

If you want us to classify ourselves, I might be the "play it by ear and don't be predictable type." I was the 'older' child and didn't have all your learning benefits.

You could look around for some other gems too. Thanks again!

Rachel said...

I think you are a first mouse!! You can go out and try new cheese but being careful makes it worthwhile and less to worry about.

Enjoy the cheese Rhodent!!

Ralph's Homespun Headlines said...

Shake it up a little. Be the first mouse but throw in the second mouse every once in awhile. It really does drive people crazy. It also makes life interesting.

Abandoned in Pasadena said...

I'm a second mouse in everything and I got the cheese...anyway that's how I feel.